Women’s gifts

                Assalamu’alaikum girls? How are you in this fair day? Are you fed up with pimples on your face? Or are you happy because of hanging out with your friends run well? Hmm... Or maybe, you are in huge rage because your roommate does not keep the room clean? Or, are you mad with your friends because they didn’t want to hear your stories? Okay girls, do not worried if one or some of those happen to yourself. That’s very common happen to us; women. Yep! It sounds that being a woman is somewhat complicated (in positive meaning), enjoyable and unique. Sometimes we behave like this (happy-face) and this (crabby-face) and others (grin). That’s really natural from women who always color the spot where ever she is or whenever it is.

                According to John Gray, Ph.D. in his book Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus, women actually have such a “cycle-character” as wave. Once, women can be a pleasant-person, and in the other times, she might be back to tell things that have happened in the past, which actually had finished, like she is a fussy person. That’s it! Women have a special ability in language. She is easier to expand words than men because both side of women’s brain (left and right brain) involve in expanding them. Meanwhile, the men use only the left brain to expanding the words. Now, I’d like to present you the women’s gift. In here, it means that there are some special things women had given.

1.      Women’s brain

          Brizendine’s research has succeed to reveal a very unique fact. Actually, every brain owned by a child is a female-brain at the beginning. That brain would be a male-brain eight weeks after fertilization. In that eighth week, there will be a big forming of testosterone-hormone that changes the brain into male-brain by deactivating certain cells in the communication center. But, if this testosterone-hormone forming do not happens, female- brain will keep grows and the brain-cells will create more connection or such bridges that link to the communication center and emotional area.

With those processes, communication center of women is much bigger than men. It is also found in a research that men use around 7000 words per day, when women use around 20.000 words per day.

     “What’s happen to you, Julie?” asked Alice

Julie then shakes his head and tries to smile as she tells that there’s nothing happens.

“Nothing. I am okay. Don’t worry.” she answered

“No. There must be something happens to you. I can see it. You can tell me” Alice remarked.

You may be often experience or notice this thing, right? Alice is sure that there is something happens to Julie. She knows it from Julie’s response. That would be different if the one who ask is a man. Perhaps, after Julie tell him that there’s nothing happens, the man will go and leave her. From that case, it is women’s skill to comprehend that, even though that may be some women are not that easy to know others’ emotion, feeling and there may be some men who can do that way too.

Women’s ability to read people’s emotion is actually comes from her brain. Just by looking at face, noticing others’ behavior, and also the tone of voice, women can guess whether the person is happy, sad, mad, or insecure. We also cannot conclude that no men have such this ability, yet in fact, it tends to happen in women and recent research show that women has been organized to recognize this and has this ability indeed.

    Women’s brain also have been arranged to prevent and avoid conflicts. Girls are used to be organized by certain hormone (estrogen) and do not get numerous testosterone in their brain that this responsible to maintain a good relationship. We can see it from children playing-group. Usually each girl will give her opinion about what to play and create a small-community. On the other side, when boys come, they tend to make riot.

2.     ‘Hormone’ the controller !

The word ‘hormone’ is taken from Greek which means “control the movement.” Hormone arrange the movement of various life processes, such as metabolism, intellectual even reaction to stress from internal or external environment. For women, the hormone can affect brain structure, mood and attitude.

Girls tend to like sharing story, speaking alone in the bathroom or tell secret. There is biologic reason behind all of those. The relationship that is build by talking will activate enjoyment-centers in the brain. It is the activity done by dopamin and oksitosin hormones. Those hormones will create such ‘pleasure’ if they are produced massively (the hormones in our body control our activities). Maybe, that’s why women are fussier than men, right? 

3.     Facts about women

     Women use different language to communicate. When they want to convey something, they won’t deliver it directly. It really differs from men. For example, Sarah back to home after shopping and brought many shopping-bags, after arrived in the verandah, she saw Jerry; her brother, was sitting on a bench.

                                “Oh, it’s really heavy. There are too many shopping-bags” said Sarah

Sarah actually wanted her brother to help her, but she did not tell it directly, like “Jerry, could you help me to carry these bags”. But, she used another words instead; “Oh, it’s really heavy. There are too many shopping-bags.” That implied that she wanted his help. Only a few men can comprehend that kind of, what do we call it, hmm ... let say “women language.” Somehow, in certain cases, it’s better for women to tell what they’d like to directly or it will cause problem instead. As I told, not every man understands it and not every woman could comprehend it easily.

      Women have fluctuating-emotional.

      Women are sometimes easy to jealous to others. You may often see or hear that when, let say Jenie has a new cell-phone, then when her friends know about that, they may give comment or some of them may mocked it.

       Women easier to memorize or remember something specifically than men, especially to remember or memorize the words. They have strong memory.

                   I think that’s all for now girls. Isn’t it good to know about ourselves? We can know the reasons about what’s happen to us. Wait! Before I end this, one thing I’d like to tell you is that even though that those all control ourselves, we still have to becareful. Do not let them somehow let us do the bad things. In speaking for instance. We have ability to produce various words, sentences. Sometimes bad words might go out from our mouth abruptly and we do not realize it, or it may hurt others. We have to consider it too, okay? Well, see yaa at the next post ^_^

Source: P Deasylawati. 2009. PsikO giRLY. Surakarta: Indiva media kreasi